Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Finally Free

Better Late Than Never - The Advocate" Talks about coming out later in life. The author of the article references Meredith Baxter's recent coming out and she theorizes the reasons why coming out later in life is becoming quite common.

She points to the fact that for those of us in their 50's (not me...not quite yet) homosexuality was a crime. And that the LGBT civil rights movement was basically in it's infancy back when those people were coming of age. There is no doubt that the movement has come a long way since the 1950's.

For me personally, I did what was expected of me. I got married and had children. I really didn't know anything else. And it took me a heck of a long time to even decide to do that. I knew I was different, but I couldn't figure out at the time what it was.

When my now ex-husband's mental break happened and it became clear over several years that he wasn't getting better, I began to examine my life and that's when I figured things out about myself. Once I came out to myself I was so much more comfortable in my own skin. When I started dating women I did so with so much more confidence than I ever had before. That first kiss sealed it for me. I knew instantly.

©2008-2009 Fire Crotch Rocket


Herrad said...

Happy Christmas.

Lin said...

I wondered, too, if it had something to do with hampering her career as well. I'm sure there were, and still are, some who feels that the roles would be altered by their private vs public persona.

Linda Medrano said...

My best friend is a gay black woman architect. She's almost 60 and has never been in the closet. I have a couple of friends in their 60's and 70's (a couple) and both were married with kids when they met. It's funny. It takes us time to figure out who we are or we always know. It's all good when you get there!